Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Tough Love

Do you think you are strong? How strong are you? Do you curl fourth graders at the gym amongst the squeals of laughter? Do you crush the extended hand when you shake it? Can you push a car by yourself?

How strong are you emotionally? My friends are as strong as the Empire State Building is tall. Who am I hanging out with you wonder. These ladies see tomorrow as both a blessing and a curse yet they progress towards their goal of taking home a baby from the hospital. My friends have suffered through the losses of their unborn children. Their pregnancy is confirmed, and sometimes as soon as that same day they find out their hope has fallen to the ground like a cannon ball. 

I wish there was a way for us to see the rush of hormones and chemicals that flood the body when a woman finds out she's pregnant. The excitement of success for a long awaited goal having been reached would just have to evident throughout her body. Her heart becomes more tender; her ego fades to the background; and she embodies her vision of what it means to be maternal. She no longer holds herself on a pedestal but instead her growing womb encompasses her number one. A pregnant woman starts planning immediately on how to face her fears and how to best maximize her joy. I'm not sure a man can relate to such an organic change like a woman can in this situation. 

Then, through no fault of her own consciousness, she's delivered a telegram somehow, some way that her dream has just been popped. Her body isn't producing the right balance of hormones. How was she suppose to know?! Now she has to muddle through the despair that follows such sorrowful news. The doctors do not know why she continues to have miscarriages. Why is her body broken while others' are baby-making machines?! What did she get dealt this deck of cards?! She continues to research anything and everything that can possibly give her insight into the mysterious cause of a miscarriage. She wants to understand what her doctor is talking about, and have an engaging conversation with him about what she needs to do going forward. 

Going forward. These women do not know how to shrivel up and quit. No. They are strong because they do everything in their power to achieve their dream of holding their child one day. Their world is a blur of numbers that give meaning to their journey. They mourn, and they make a special place in their heart for the life they created and envisioned cuddling with one day. They acknowledge that they need time to heal, and do so in their own way. Their journey comes with pent-up excitement for a positive and realistic unpleasant news with a sign of a cramp. Days turn into weeks, weeks into months, and months into years. My friends willing go through this cycle because they are strong. 

You may have strong friends too, and you never knew the source of their strength. I am not as strong as my friends, but should I need to be, I know I have them close by. 

I'm saddened too because I won't get to see the pictures that you post or the videos that you share. Now I won't have those adorable cheeks to want to pinch. I won't witness the proud smile you always wear while holding your baby. One day though, I will awe at your child in the pictures. One day I will laugh at your baby's uncanny sense of timing while being caught on camera. Not only will I tenderly nip at those cheeks, but I'll feel those little fingers wrap around one of mine. One day you'll get to introduce the world to your child, and it will be the moment that is keeping you strong today.

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Doggy Trivia Party

 Last night I hosted a meetup for 7 girls at my house. I put together this lovely snack spread:
*Puppy chow (recipe from Pinterest)
*Dog themed rice crispy treats
*Black bean-corn salsa with Tostitos Scoops chips
*Pumpkin whip (recipe from Pinterest) with cinnamon Teddy Grahams
*Veggie tray (not pictured)
*Cranberry-Apple-Pomegranite Sprite mixed drink

I had met three of the six girls who came over at previous meetups. Incase anyone isn't familiar with meetup.com, it's a website where one can join or create a social group with a specific interest. The group that I'm a part of is called Girls Just Wanna Have Fun, and it's for ladies in Austin who are looking to meet new girlfriends. Most of us are transplants to this great city, are out of college, and work full time. Our group does all the work for you by bringing women who are looking for friends, looking to bond with others, and go have fun.

I joined this group back in July after visiting my best friend in North Carolina. She's a Marine wife and an elementary school teacher. Her friends are all teachers and Marine wives too. They are always meeting up to go to the gym, go out to dinner, have parties together, send over husbands to do husbands' work while one is deployed, that sort of thing. I had been feeling very lonely in Austin because I didn't know how to find the social circles to meet other girls who were also looking to make friends. Somehow I came across meetup.com when I came home from vacation, and my social life took off!

Back on track now, everyone chatted and shared about themselves. Turns out three of the girls were from Wisconsin. We shared stories about our current dogs or what dogs we had growing up. We started the trivia game, which I did in a powerpoint presentation on my laptop. The winner got a bottle of wine with a labrador on it.

Trivia ended at 10pm, and we went to Midnight Rodeo, a club about 15 minutes away. Some girls had been there a long time ago, but we were all really curious to see what it was about. So, we were a group of 7 girls with no guys around us; if that doesn't scream, "We're here to dance!" I don' know what does. We were disappointed they did not have a mechanical bull. The country music was pretty good, and they threw in about three rap songs like Gold Digger and such about once a hour.

They had one song where it was Ladies' Choice. Ladies could choose any guy they wanted to dance with and the guy couldn't so no. I asked one of the single girls with us who she wanted, and she pointed to a tall guy with a baseball cap. I took her by the arm, went over to the guy and said, "Hi, meet Kristy. She wants to dance with you, and you can't say no." Then I left to go back to the rest of the girls, hehehehe. Turns out his name was Daniel, and he couldn't dance, which is why he was standing towards the back. It was fun to watch them out there. I definitely would do anything to convince Marshall to learn to country dance while wearing his cowboy hat. *swoon

PS. With Marshall's car still torn apart in the garage, we can't move it to pull down the ladder to the attic. Thus, we STILL have our Christmas decorations up.

Cats


I haven't updated on our furry babies in a while, so I thought I would do so this morning because I saw Misti on our guest bed, posing like she deserves the whole thing to herself. 
Misti is very much like a teenage daughter most of the time. She loves her daddy, and she'll only hang out with her mom when it suits her. This is why I love teasing her with a shoe lace or string because she instantly reverts to being a cat again. She absolutely adores Marshall. When I wake up on the weekends, she'll sneak into our room and cuddle up in my tossed blankets on my side of the bed. When I peek back in on her, she's sleeping contently as if this is how life should be--Daddy and Misti-gurl snoozing together. It's so funny to watcher to trot after Marshall as he goes to another room or down the hall. 
Misti has also twisted daddy's arm into letting her go outside in the back yard when it is nice out. 


Here is our orange boy Santa Ana.
Santa Ana (aka Orange Boy, Brother, Family Cat) is such a sweetheart. Every morning I have a WW smoothie, and I drink it while relaxing on the couch. He follows me to the couch, hops in my lap, and readies himself for pets. This is our routine every morning. He also gets good-night pets where we cuddle for a few minutes before I fall asleep. Marshall and I being together, whether it's us lying in bed talking to each other or us on the couch watching a show, is an absolute magnet for Santa Ana. He take the opportunity for 4 hands to pet him instead of the normal 2. This cat also plays fetch. His favorite activity is having us throw toy mice, and he runs after it, then brings it back to us to repeat. He jumps really high too. I wish I could get him on video of him being an acrobat! 


This is our Maggie, the kitten we took in from the streets a week before Christmas in 2010. 
Maggie is a vocal sweetie-pie. She enjoys sitting on the dining room table, where she knows she isn't suppose to be, and looking out the window. She instigates play-time with her big brother, and they are frequently spotted racing through the house. Her favorite room is the bathroom. She loves playing Shower Curtain Monster, which is a game where she bats our our hand making movements with the shower curtain. Poor Maggie is not a graceful cat at all. She's so awkwardly put together with her small head, square body, and thin tail. It looks like she is smiling when she's in daddy's lap while he's using the computer because she's so content. Maggie recently somehow made it into the yard of the neighbor behind us. It was a fiasco trying to get her to come back, but Marshall did it. Cats have not been outside since. 

These are our Reeske fur babies. Life wouldn't be as interesting without them. 

Saturday, January 28, 2012

Foundation in Foundry

Marshall went to a conference in Houston last night, and the topic was about how the oil and gas industry's new method of fracking is affecting the foundry industry. As a refresher, Marshall is majoring in Industrial Technology--Manufacturing Technology at Texas State University, and will graduate in May 2014. Last semester he took a foundry course and fell in love with it. He's less interested in bring the guy who pours the molten metal into sand molds, and more ambitious in becoming an engineer in the foundry industry. Back on track now, the speaker basically spoke about how fracking works and that is requires a lot of sand. The oil companies are buying and using more than all the sand that the foundry industry around the entire world uses in a given year. With the demand for sand on the rise, so are the costs, which are also affecting foundries. Very interesting for business leaders, and informative for people like my husband who want to know more about the industry.

The real reason Marshall went was to rub elbows with the owners, managers and other representatives of foundry companies here in Texas. He met up with this Lufkin contact Ray, who gave him a tour of their foundry facility back in December. Ray was with two other Lufkin reps, one of whom Marshall said looked to be in upper management. Marshall asked him what would his chances be of gaining employment with Lufkin after college and going to an overseas location (such as Canada or Argentina). Apparently the guy's response was "pretty good," because most Americans don't want to move out of the country, and the people that they do want to go overseas would fill management positions. This is good news for us because we'd consider going to Canada or Argentina. They have a Romania facility...um, not so much.

Marshall so was told some anecdotes about how people in upper management in the foundry business are literally dying off. It's becoming more and more common for someone in their late 20s or 30s being a general manager or chief of operations of a foundry. Wow! I don't think Marshall could handle the stress of such a position, but he'd be an excellent engineer or engineering manager, which would be a huge asset to the GM. What does this all boil down to for us? First, it seems that the people Marshall has spoken with at these types of conferences are all very patient. They are completely fine with keeping in touch with him and getting together again when he graduates (2.5 years away). This is amazing in my eyes. In addition to this, we are both feeling more confident that Marshall could go into contract with a company probably the fall of 2013 and start working for them after graduating the following May.

I know my husband will be very successful at whatever he puts his heart into, and I believe the foundry industry is at a point where they would snatch him up in a heartbeat. Hopefully he'll enjoy it and become a leader, creating new processes, even inventing new tools (Marshall loves to invent things) that would be applicable to foundry work. I'm very content right now with this door we may choose to enter one day.

Saturday, January 21, 2012

One Liner

I'm currently at 14 of 366 letters written this year. :)

Food Poisoning

I'll keep this short since I've been talking about it all week. On Monday I filled Donny up with 11 gallons of gas from the Texaco that is about 4 blocks from my house. Immediately he started having engine problems. Natasha is still snoozing in the garage, so Marshall got a ride from our neighbors to my office to take a look at what was causing Donny to misbehave. We determined I must have gotten bad gas from the Texaco. He was able to drain 5 gallons, then add 5 fresh gallons (from a Chevron). It must have diluted the bad gas enough to allow the engine to continue running. We were finally able to drive home.

Today's Marshall plan is buy 5 gallons of gas from that Chevron, then drain out Donny's tank completely. Fill it back up with 5 gallons, and hopefully he'll be all better. Cross your fingers! I'm so tired of car troubles!!

Friday, January 13, 2012

January Schedule of Events

Hi everyone! Here's what happening for us (so far) the rest of January.

Saturday 14th--WW meeting and helping with the Girl Scouts do some cookie prep. I'm going to see War Horse at 1pm with Dominque.

Sunday 15th--Jogging with Candice at 8:30-9:30. Bowling with Meetup.com girls 10:30-12:00pm.

Tuesday 17th--Marshall's first day of the new semester. He's taking 4 classes this semester: Chem I (lecture and lab), CAD II, Fundamentals of Management, and a power tech class with lab. He'll have Fridays off to do house projects for me, lol.

Tuesday 24th--Having a bbq lunch at work the following day, so I'll probably bake something for dessert to bring in.

Satruday 28th--Trivia party at my house, then we ladies are going to the Midnight Rodeo club to dance. Whoo-hoo!

Meet Donny

Wednesday night, January 4th, my husband comes to me and says that we have to have a discussion about our cars. Natasha is a '99 Audi A6 with 210,000 miles on her, and has had an unexplained engine issue for about four weeks. Mac is my 2000 Dodge Stratus with 173,000 miles on him. At the beginning of December, he began overheating. Marshall discovered an oil leak and a leak in the water pump. A few days later, Natasha's problems start. Great, now we have 2 cars with significant issues and only one handy hubby to fix them. As much as I dislike car problems, this couldn't have happened at a better time because Marshall had 4 weeks off from college for the holiday break.

Back on track now, he patches up the oil leak and keeps 4 gallons of distilled water in Mac so we an refill the water pump each time we get in the car. Talk about inconvenience, but hey, Mac was drivable again. I get dropped off and picked up from work each day thanks to Mars. Well, on that Wednesday, he comes to me talk about Natasha. He thinks there's a timing belt in the engine that is not as tight as the one on the other side of the engine, plus a spring broke. Our options become: 1) he takes Natasha's engine apart and fixes everything himself. 2) we take it to a repair shop. 3) we ditch the German wench and get a new car. At this point we decide that 2 is out of the question because it would be $1000+ for the repair due to it being with the engine. I'd rather use that $1000 for a down payment on a replacement vehicle. Marshall still had a week and a half left of his break, and he was confident he could take his car apart and put her back together again in time. Ok, that was going to be the plan. If repairing her was going to cost more than $500 and take more than 2 weeks, she was getting put out to pasture and a new car was going to be purchased. We'd sell her for parts and add that money to the down payment.

Thursday, January 5th rolls around. After we watch an episode of our favorite television series together, he asks, "Can we talk about cars?" I'm thinking he's going to tell me that he dug deeper into Natasha's heart and found another problem, that it's not worth spending the time fixing her. "We need a new car...but it's not Natasha; it's Mac." What? Mac? How is that both of our cars can be on the brink?! "There's a rattling noise coming from the engine that I think is a piece of metal getting ground up and making its way into the oil." Dirty oil? Even I know that's not a good thing. "I don't expect Mac to live til the end of the month. We need to look into getting you a new car."

Hmm, new situation for us. We have to finance a car. My father purchased Mac for me in March 2006 and I paid him back for it. Natasha was bought outright on craigslist. We haven't had car payments in the 4.5 years we've been together. Time to crunch some numbers. I do my financial whiz thing, and then call my father-in-law, who lives in Houston. He tells me that everything is going to be ok, and offers to come up on Friday to talk us through this car buying process.

Friday, January 6th appears, and the guys pick me up from work in Jeff's truck. We talk and make plans to go to a dealership on Saturday. I found a 2010 Mazda6 with about 40,000 miles for $12,888. We could manage car payments with financing that amount. After lunch on Saturday the 7th, we go to look at the Mazda6. We owned Megan, a blue 2003 Mazda6, but she died when we got into a car accident February 2010. This is how Natasha came into our family. I really liked Megan, and was looking forward to keeping her for a very long time because she was roomy enough to tote a growing family. So, I needed a new mommy car, something for me to drive that could last me 8-10 years. Why not get another Megan but a newer version?

While we were on the used car lot, I saw a 2011 Nissan Rogue. I walked past it like it was Prince William, slowly and with my mouth open. I drool and swoon whenever I see a Rogue on the road. I think they have a magnificent design and would be perfect for a family. Not too big, not to small, but just right. I had never been in one before. Marshall saw my behavior, and suggested we take a look at it. I loved it. Absolutely loved it. I couldn't find a single fault with it other than the sticker price was $19,832--out of our budget. It then came time to decide which of the vehicles I wanted to test drive. I wasn't as excited about the Mazda6 because the model had changed from Megan. It was much smaller and made me feel very cramped. I lied and said I didn't know. "You want the Rogue, don't you?" I gave him a look that read, "don't do this to me. Don't ask me to drive and fall even more in love with a car we can't afford." Needless to say we test drove the Rogue first, and I smiled the entire time. When it came time to drive the Mazda6, I was not as happy because there was a subtle flapping noise that we couldn't identify, and the acceleration was poor. We didn't talk numbers with our sales guy because we had to go home and think about how we could afford the Rogue.

We went home and researched other Rogues, and found that the same lot had a 2010 Rogue with 43,000 miles for $16,999. Definitely more financially feasible than almost $20,000. We also saw a red Rogue in north San Antonio that was a 2010 with almost 37,000 miles for $15,988. Since I had a Girl Scout meeting on Monday night, and dealerships aren't open on Sundays, we would go check out the red Rogue on Tuesday after I got out of work.

Monday, January 9th...we are driving home from work in the drizzling rain and about 1.5 miles from home Mac starts rumbling and clambering from his engine. We come to a stop line 1 mile from our house, and Mac overheats, stalls out. Great... Marshall lifts the hood up, and steam billows out. He refills the water pump, and then pours 2 gallons of water on the engine. It's so hot it boils off the waterfall. After 5 minutes a nice guy pulls up and offers to help us push it to the side of the road. Mars starts the engine, and decides he thinks we can make it home. Thankfully we do, and we park Mac in the driveway. It's 5pm, and we don't have a car. I called my neighbor Shawna to see if she could take me to the airport to pick up a rental car. She takes me, and I get a red Nissan Versa through Saturday (that came with an empty gas tank! grrr). Before leaving, I emailed the Girl Scout Director and told her that I wasn't going to make it to the meeting and why. Ok, now I have a car so I'll be able to get to work tomorrow--whew! Goal #1 has been achieved.

Now the pressure is on to find a car. We need to find a permanent vehicle for us by Saturday at 6pm because that is when the Versa is due back. My boss lets me leave work at 3pm on Tuesday, and by 4:30 we arrive at the dealership in San Antonio to look at the (cheaper) red Rogue. It checks out, and drives really well. We're happy, but want to see the report about the car's history. Apparently it was bought in January 2010 in Dallas, then in late August 2011 it was in a minor accident at 36,600 miles. The report doesn't give details as to what the accident could have been. After much deliberation and Marshall reinspecting the vehicle, we decide that it must still be fine. I'll save you all the details about coming to the final price, but we agree to $15,500 plus TTL. USAA offered us a 5.04% loan for 60 months, but the dealership found an alternative offer of 3.45% for 60 months. I wrote out a check for our down payment, did all the paperwork, and I was able to drive my new Rogue home that night.

Meet Donovan Carson Reeske!


I absolutely love Donny, and I am so proud! It seems silly to say (or write) but I feel much more like an adult with my first post-college car. Donny better stay away from other cars that don't play nicely because I'm keeping him for the rest of his life!

Chocolate Fire

I used a paid sick day today because I had a routine doctor's appointment this morning at 9:15. I find that when I come into work after 10:30, the day seems more chaotic because I have to catch up 2.5 hours of missed emails, updates, etc and then get on track for the afternoon. It's better just to not come in really. Plus, I worked all through Christmas without a day off because my coworker was out of town for 2 weeks. I'm enjoying every minute of my three day weekend that is just for me!

I also used the gift certificate to Massage Harmony that Santa put in my stocking. I had a wonderful massage therapist. She was the best out of the 4 that I've had had massages from during my previous visits. My shoulders and back feel so much better--what a miracle!

After my deep tissue massage, I came home to wake up my husband, who was still in bed, surrounded by two of our three cats. I told him I was starving and wanted to take him to lunch. We drove to Pappasito's Cantina, and the food was excellent. Their fajita meat is amazing and Mars loves the seasonings in his beef taco and enchilada. Afterwards we went to satisfy my chocolate craving. We went to Amy's Ice Cream, and I saw 2 new flavors--Dreamcicle and Chocolate Fire. I tried a sample of both. Dreamcicle was excessively rich, and I wouldn't have been able to eat more than a few spoonfuls. Chocolate Fire was creamy and delicious. I didn't know where the "fire" part of it was though. I ordered a small (about 1 cup) of the Chocolate Fire with Reese's Peanut Butter Cups crushed in. I took a bite, and um, I tasted the fire alright. There must have been some sort of habenero in the mix because it made my taste buds dance! It was really delicious, and reminded me of some of the spicy chocolate flavors I had in the fall at a chocolate festival I went to. We sat on some large rocks and watch kiddos play on the nearby playground. Before long we discarded our empty cups and spoons, and drove home.

We planned our week's menu and went grocery shopping. Eating healthy is not cheap, let me tell you. It's worth it though. I think of it as buying time. Eating healthy today will extend my lifespan, and don't we all wish we could have just a little bit more time?

I managed to cross another task off of my To Do List; I cleaned out Mac so he can be picked up by the KUT vehicle donation program. Oh, I haven't written about our car situation. Time for a new post!

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Fondue Party!

I'm hosting a February Fondue Party at my house next month! I'm so excited, and I have a lot to plan. It's going to be so awesome!! We'll have at least 2 cheese fondue stations and 2 chocolate fondue stations. So delicious!!

The Resolutions Thing

2012 Resolutions

#1--Call family more often.
I'm going to call my grandma Barbara every month on the first and Marshall's grandmother every month on the 20th. 


#2--Reach Goal and become a Lifetime member with Weight Watchers.
30 pounds to go!


#3--Pray more.
I have a little notebook that I keep in my purse. I write down things to pray for and need to make more time in my day to send positive energy their way. 


#4--Write 366 cards, notes or letters this year.
5 down, 361 to go!


#5--I want to have drop-dead gorgeous arms and core by the end of the year.
I'm going to do the 12 minute Ab Circle DVD everyday and spend two 10-minute boxing sessions a day with my husband. 

Aunty Rah-Rah

I'm going to be an aunt again! My brother's going to be a father, and I should have a new family member in August this year. I continue to pray for the baby's continued healthy growth and for the new mama since Matt deployed last week. He'll be back in plenty of time before his son/daughter is born, but I'm sad he will miss ultra sound appointments and such.

Cheers to being Aunty Rah-Rah for a second time!